OYFF hosts several Birth Mother Retreats each year to provide birth mothers with an opportunity to share common experiences, participate in therapeutic workshops and build community.  Birth mothers leave the two day retreat feeling rejuvenated and inspired having made new allies who share a common bond. Retreats will be held on the following weekends in 2017:

  • January 27-29 at Ralston White Retreat Center (Registration opens 12/16/16)
  • September 8-10 at Ralston White Retreat Center (Registration opens 7/17/17)

What to Expect

OYFF Retreats are free of charge.  All food is included and we do our best to accommodate food allergies, vegetarians, etc.  We assign rooms ahead of time, and typically women share a room with one other person with a bathroom nearby.  Following is a sample agenda for a typical retreat weekend:


  • Arrival, greet first-time attendees
  • “Step Into the Heart,” a beloved tradition where birth mothers can tell parts of their story, and see who else shares their experience
  • Community check-in, reflections on adoption


  • Morning full group, addressing topics such as ambiguous loss, birth mothers tasks post-adoption, dealing with regret and shame, and the Seven Core issues of adoption
  • Afternoon small groups, addressing topics such as learning from adult adoptees, dating after placement, relationship skills for open adoptions, and rewriting your narrative
  • Afternoon free time – options may include activities such as massage, guided hikes, yoga, Zumba and community
  • Evening group, including activities such as making a memory book, positive affirmation mirror, or planting your future


  • Morning full group, addressing topics such as values, meeting your future self, and guided meditation
  • Evaluations, reflections, and closing circle

Retreat Registration Policies

The following policies guide staff in organizing retreats. OYFF may alter these policies at any time if it is in the best interest of the organization or retreat attendees. Each retreat can accommodate approximately 25 birth mothers.

To reserve your spot, please call the office at (415) 513-5010 and leave a message that you’d like to attend OR email Jenny Sindel at

  • 10 openings are reserved for women who have attended previous retreats
  • 15 openings are reserved for first time attendees
  • Once openings are filled, a wait list is started
  • If the 15 spaces reserved for new attendees are not filled, the spaces will be offered to people who have attended previous retreats
  • If you are placed on the wait list and do not get a space, you will be given priority to attend the next retreat
  • You may register for yourself only.  We do not accept registrations from third parties (friends, relatives, adoption professionals, etc.).

On Your Feet is an equal opportunity service provider and employer. We prohibit discrimination on the basis of race, color, religion, national origin, political belief, gender, gender expression, gender identity, sexual orientation, age, physical or mental disability, veteran status, and marital status.

For more information about upcoming retreats, please email

What to Bring?

OYFF Retreats are very casual.  We want you to be comfortable throughout the weekend!  Bedding and towels are provided.  Please bring the following:

  • Toiletries

  • Comfortable clothes:  a warm sweater or jacket

  • Walking shoes (no exercise will be required, but sometimes people like to take a hike or long walk during free time)

  • Photos that you might want to share with the group.  They can be of you pregnant, your child or children, or other important people in your life.